For the past four and a half months, you’ve read my ramblings as I etched my thoughts on here, one post at a time.
Looking back at them I see this has been a practice in sharing and reflecting, which developed into a daily ritual. Posting the blog created structure amongst the empty space I was in. It was a voice I didn’t know I had.
Now I feel it is time to say goodbye. I am grateful for anyone who read my blog, took away from it, and I can say I enjoyed every minute of it.
Go well and kill it in the game 🙂
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.”
Let me get personal for a moment and ask you a series of questions.
What do you believe to be your most valuable commodity?
What drives your daily actions?
What is your biggest personal ROI?
Do you have a burning passion to change or improve your life for yourself or for someone else? Maybe for the rest of the world?
Are you happy where you are now?
Do you spend the majority of your time wondering what you’d rather be doing?
Do you believe there is a purpose for you being here, and are you fulfilling it now?
These questions aren’t leading in to a sales pitch, in case you were wondering. I don’t have the answers for you for a low, low price. I have recently been fascinated with my own answers just as much as other people’s. The notion that we are human beings, rather than humans doing was lost on me until now. We are not defined solely by what we do.
So ask yourself or someone you know these questions, maybe your own answers will surprise you.
English poet, Alexander Pope once said, ‘To err is human; to forgive, divine’. I would add a new and less eloquent version of my own, ‘To compare is human’.
The topic of comparing oneself came up in conversation over coffee with a friend yesterday. We agreed that whilst this is not an uncommon impulse, it can quite easily become a trap. Much like the rabbit hole except with murky, swampy waters and a stench of envy.
We are all flawed in this life, that is just a fact of the human condition, however in the glow of Instagram and its various filters, you would not be remiss to think that we all live perfectly wonderful lives and are surrounded by the glow of the sun always. And by we, I mean everyone else but you.
They may be more attractive, have more wealth, more intelligence, and more success than you. You feel that you just don’t measure up to them, and as the feelings of inferiority fester, you fall down the trap and you sink deeper into a state you can’t get out of easily. This is the trap.
In reality, the only person you need to compare yourself to is: yourself.
As a photographer, I look at the work I did ten years ago versus the work I did last week, and that’s the only comparison I make. In fact, these days I am immersed in scanning my own film from the last 15 years of shoots, I have no time to even look at other people’s work (plus, I don’t have Instagram).
If you find Instagram or any other visual social media platform is causing you to feel this way, maybe take a break from it and surround yourself with real people and actual hobbies. Write down what you’re grateful for every morning, my wife just started doing this and it has turned everything from night into day.
Celebrate yourself vs envy someone else.
To compare is human; to choose not to compare is also human.